LIFESTYLE: GREATEST LIFE LESSONS YOU'LL LEARN IN YOUR 20s: BE CLUELESS
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My life’s plan was simple (see here).
Finish high school, get into an Ivy-League, get an MBA, work of Wall Street,
buy loads of properties, be married by 23 (hahahaha what a joke!), have my FOUR
kids by 30, and live in fairytale land with loads of money and the perfect
family. And I got pretty far. I got into Brown University and completed my
degree in Economics. And then my plan COMPLETELY disintegrated. I hated
Economics. The idea of working on Wall Street made me gag and there was no (I
mean NO) potential husband in site. So I moved back to Kenya resolute on
pursuing my passion of acting, and absolutely no plan on how to make that happen.
And guys, those first few years were BRUTAL. I felt like I was floating in
space, not knowing which way was up or down, forward or backwards. I was so
intent on having a plan that without it I stagnated. I just refused to move. So
I took the closest thing to solid ground I could find and pursued it with all
my might; an MA in Acting. And while I thought it would anchor me, it did me
one better; it gave me wings to fly.
The truth is your 20s aren’t meant to be
spent with your feet on the ground. For most of us we are gaining our
independence. At least early on we don’t have the responsibility of taking care
of kids or spouses and some are even luckier to still live at home and not pay
bills. So WHY would you want to live anchored to the ground when you could be flying?
Go after your passion. Take that job in Malaysia. Go back-packing for 6 months.
And most importantly TRY and FAIL and try and fail and try and fail some more.
Because unlike when you have kids to feed and a mortgage, the failing won’t
hurt quite as bad.
Remember that YOU HAVE TIME to figure things
out. And trust me, every year of your
20s you’ll look back and say ‘I love how I thought I had things figured out.
Little did I know what I was about to learn.’ Be excited. Your 20s should be
exciting!
Until Next Time,
The Clueless Blogger
23 comments
I agree to a certain degree. I think by 25 people should start to formulate a plan because certain things can get competitive and it's important to get that experience under your belt earlier rather than later.
ReplyDeleteCompletely agree. Even if you don't know for sure what you want to do in the end, you need to throw yourself into something until you figure it out. Definitely can't sit around waiting.
DeleteI totally hear you on the plan. It's amazing how we think we've got life all figured out going into our twenties. I am heading into my thirties and life is so much better than I could have ever imagined! Being open to things other than the "plan" is a wonderful thing.
ReplyDeleteGlad you're loving your 30s. I'm really excited to get to mine.
DeleteIt's good to have a plan, however, it is important to realize that sometimes our "plans' don't always go as planned. It is important to be open minded.
ReplyDeleteI agree 100%
DeleteI wished I could go back to my 20's and do things differently. I've learned more in the last ten years, and could have used some of that advice in my 20's.
ReplyDeleteIsn't it crazy how that works. I look back at my early 20s and feel that same sense of regret. I wish I knew then what I knew now. I would have gotten so much more out of those years.
DeleteI'm in my 40s now, and I definitely agree with this. While you do definitely need to settle at some point, the 20s are a good time to figure out your direction.
ReplyDeleteYour honesty is refreshing. You make some great points here. Everyone has a unique purpose and path and it's important to stop and smell the roses along the way (talking to myself here too).
ReplyDeleteThat is an amazing thought! I love the idea of just enjoying your 20s. That's exactly what I want my kids to experience when they're in that age. It's exciting because you're out in the world, figuring things out.
ReplyDeleteMy 20s was spent having babies and just focusing on my family. I think when my 40s rolls around is when I'll really be able to tackle everything I wanted to do in life, theres not much left I want to do but it will be interesting to see. My 20s were a blast. - Jeanine
ReplyDeleteOne of the best and most frustrating things about life is making long-term plans. Things never seem to work out how we envision them but if you embrace the changes - like you did - there's so much joy and lessons to learn on the journey.
ReplyDeleteI spent my 20s like this and I feel like I have been catching up ever since! When my friends were established in their careers, I was just starting mine. I had to work hard to get the respect from my colleagues that were my age, but had 8 years more experience than I did!
ReplyDeleteI often joke with my friends that I wish I could go back to my 20s when I was blissfully ignorant. It was so much fun. I would tell myself not to take things too seriously, because you have plenty of time to be serious.
ReplyDeleteI'm coming up to the end of my 20s and I think I spent mine much differently than most but I am definitely learning more and more.
ReplyDeleteOne thing I'll never regret during my 20s is meeting my husband. And now, I can say, I am so blessed. Despite trials and difficulties, we can still find happiness.
ReplyDeleteI am 27 and gosh I am sad to be on the later side of my twenties. So many wonderful and BIG things happened to me in my twenties!
ReplyDeleteThis is definitely the decade where you find yourself. You may feel like you are floating around and have no anchor but you are indeed doing the best soul searching and learning a whole lot.
ReplyDeleteAs I'm approaching my 30's, I couldn't agree more with this. Taking a job you don't like just because of the salary is not worth it. How awesome that you realized that before heading to Wall Street! And congrats on finding a path that you love!
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